FRIARS 101

Welcome to The Friars Golf Club and Friars 101, your basic introduction to the principles of our little organization. We were founded in 1994 by Tom Dwyer of Prescott, Arizona. Tom taught us that "golf is mostly about with whom you play." In other words, for us, it is mostly about sharing this wonderful journey with other golf-loving addicts. Life is too short to play golf with assholes. NOTE - yes, we have removed folks from the membership roles for violating this hard and fast rule. 2 in the last 5 years in fact. If you have to ask where the boundary lies, that is not a good sign ...Friars come in all shapes and sizes. Some of us are scratch golfers, even aspiring professionals, others not so much. Some of us are young, others are running as fast they can from the Grim Reaper. Some of us come with deep pockets and others scrape together their precious dollars to go on trips. Some of us just love to play great courses, others just love to play any course with great people. Some of us drink a little too much, others not at all. Some of us tell great golf stories and love an audience, others are more solitary. And so on. We have many eccentric characters who may not fit neatly into your usual round of golf with friends. The keys to unlocking the potential of The Friars are ACCEPTANCE and ENGAGEMENT.  Accept everyone for who they are, faults included, even if very different from you.  And engage with your fellow Friar members, learn as much about them as you do about the courses you play. We have folks who never would have met but for The Friars, and have become lifelong friends. Now, this doesn't happen every time. But it can happen on every Friars trip where you arrive by yourself and end up with a bucket of new friends. We play "Friars Rules of Golf" - which may disappoint those who live by the real Rules of Golf.  A 4 hour round is the expectation not the exception.  When we hit drives off the planet, we don’t hit provisionals - we drop nearest to the point of entry. We don't hit shots off rocks or tree roots.  The "competition" is more to keep it interesting than to find out who the best golfer is. We award "The Bag of Sand" to those Sandbaggers who play the best, and then mock them mercilessly. We have a wonderful opportunity to play each other's courses when we travel. The Dashboard on the Website has the Roster which is searchable by name, State and Club (thank you Greg Reinecke for creating this for us). The Club will thrive with member willingness to host fellow members. However, there is no obligation on part of a host; they accept requests only if convenient. We are all busy and understand not every request can be honored. The guest must always understand this, and should be expected to pay all costs of the day. This is a privilege, not a right, and we all benefit when keeping this in mind. The late Gord LeRiche summed it up best. Gord was a 4 time Amateur Champion in his native Ontario, Canada in his youth. In his later years, he was a 10 handicap who struggled with chipping and putting yips. When asked why he continued to play the game and come on Friars trips despite his obvious struggles, Gord would smile and say that he loved the camaraderie and the challenge of hitting one perfect shot each round. He played with folks of all abilities, and was always the first one to celebrate a great shot, no matter what your handicap was. The Friars Golf Club is not for everybody. You have to love golf, travel and people. You can't sweat the small stuff. No one gets out of life alive -- so we might as well enjoy the time we have! This is the spirit that animates us, and every trip and event we do.

Thank you for your interest in The Friars Golf Club.

Don Bostic
Executive Director
The Friars Golf Club
don@thefriars.com
910.639.2712
PO BOX 967, Stuarts Draft, VA 24477